There’s one thing every girl looks for in life and that’s LOVE!

We yearn for that ever lasting love, the kind of love you find in movies and romance novels. The love where the man falls at your feet and everything falls into place just perfectly. The man who would do about anything to make you happy. or even for the more mature audience a hot and sexy love where he pleases you in every aspect.

Often we ask ourselves if we would ever be lucky enough or worthy enough to find such a love. We are told by our pears and family that love like that is just for fairy tails and it doesn’t happen in real life. Unfortunately once this happens girls are left clueless of what they deserve in a relationship.

Many times than not girls end up in relationships with males just because of looks and not substance. We feel lucky to have gotten a guy so good looking or popular that we forget what matters. What matters is how the guy treats you and not just in the first few weeks or the first few months but in the long haul. I’ve seen it and heard it time and time again the girl meets a guy and it’s so great till it’s not. The “not” could be many things and way to long of a topic to get into. The thing we loose once we’ve been in this relationship we built is the red flags. We’ve been in the relationship way to long that we miss place our self worth. We’ve seen the blood, sweat, and tears put into the relationship it feels impossible to get out and we feel stuck. We so desperately want things to change but one person in the party isn’t as invested as the other, making it most definitely impossible to get out of.

There’s a saying “if he wanted to he would” now I take this with a grain of salt because if we are talking about issues this guy has had for years that are deeply rooted into his DNA it’s not like the problems are just gonna go away over night. With that said you may have to remind him a few times over but you will see the effort. That’s the difference from a guy who cares and puts in the work because he wants to, and a guy who could care less and is looking at you like a piece of meat that he brags and talks crap about you behind your back. These guys are toxic and manipulative and just so repulsive that when he doesn’t make the effort and gets irritated every time you let him know what bothers you, then you should know it’s time to let go.

Though it’s difficult to let go and move on from someone who made you so happy in the beginning it’s only gonna bring you more pain and heartache that’s not needed if you stay. If this is you, start planning now your escape rout. Don’t let him be aware of what’s going on because most definitely he will try to manipulate you into staying. Make a plan and hold to it. I’m not saying to go through and leave him cold turkey, I’m saying see your worth make a plan and when the time comes let him know this chapter is over and you have made up your mind and are not gonna change it. Keep to your guns.

The only reason you should ever leave without a word is if he’s abusive to you. If he’s ever laid a finger on you then you most definitely need to have a air tight plan on getting out and never letting him near you again. It’s ridiculous that I’m even having to say this but thing do happen and that guy needs help. Never allow yourself to ever feel trapped in a relationship where the man takes advantage of you and lays a hand on you in a abusive way.

In conclusion guys will think we run the world and are controlling and feel intimidated when a woman knows her worth. A lot of time our worth is lost and it takes a lot of work to get it back, but please find her. Find the love for yourself and don’t allow men to run over you. Don’t accept anything less than what you deserve, and what you deserve is for someone to love you as much as you love yourself and is willing to pick you up or catch you before you fall. You deserve to have those fairy tale moments with your partner every once in a while. I say every once in a while because life happens and some days will just be hard in your relationship but just take a deep breath and as everyone says “communication is key”. It really is, without communication comes confusion and destruction. So make it clear you wanna sit down with your partner and talk your issues and bad days out so you both have a piece of mind and are able to let go of all the toxicity that’s hindering your relationship.

If you don’t take anything else away from this blog take away this…

1. Know your worth

2. Communication is key

3. If he wanted to he would

Than if things aren’t better and effort isn’t put in than revert to,

4. Escape plan

Good luck ladies!! I hope you find peace and a revolution is acknowledged and put into place to find your happily ever after.